Our children are dealing with quite a lot these days…It is up to us to provide comfort through our careful conversations with them; helping them cope, helping them process what is currently happening by instilling feelings of safety and well-being …
And…
Hope for their future…
Helping kids process recent and ongoing current events
By Suzanne Monaghan KYW NewsradioPHILADELPHIA (KYW Newsradio)
Coronavirus-induced isolation, an inconsistent school year, fallout from the violence in Washington, D.C. — kids are living through many back-to-back historic and potentially life-changing events.
Counselor and author L.J. Jackson said young people are dealing with many anxieties as a result, like missing friends, fearing that their parents will get sick, or falling behind in school.
“The newness of it all is something that they’re trying to wrap their heads around and understand,” she said. “Whether they’re toddlers or pre-teens or teens or young adults, this is their first go-round for a lot of them with something as intense as what we’ve been going through in 2020 and the first start of 2021.”
For parents, Jackson suggests not listening to the news when children are around. Also, talk to them about how they’re feeling, reassure them that everything will be OK, and come up with things to look forward to.
“Their brains are still developing and they’re thinking in the moment, here and now, so just help them think and create a bright future so that no matter what happens, they can see beyond this.”
For example, make a vision board that you and your children can post pictures and lists of things to look forward to. Kids need consistency, especially during the inconsistency of today.
“With young people, hope is very important, and so it’s kind of like our gas tank,” she alluded. “Just kind of do a check-in with them periodically. Whether they want to talk or not, make sure their ‘hope tank’ is filled.”
In my many years of teaching, my main focus was….to reach all of my children…That….along with the rigors of the required curriculum…I believed in order for young children to be successful…they needed to know I cared…
Since this new millennium, especially teaching children from a diverse African American background…
I believed…those children needed to feel pride in their history…not just in February, when Black History is part of the curriculum…
I felt taking those opportunities when I could to fit in to our day..
Talks about how their values of character such as: kindness, working hard, and … never giving up!
Are those qualities that people should be judged…
And not by what they look like…
I would always call upon that memory of
” Dr, Martin Luther King” …
And how much hebelieved and never giving up on this Dream….
Using myself as an example of when I was a young child I would share that I would watch the news about Dr. King on television… and what a special man…he was…
…My children with eyes wide open felt that he was real , because Ms Sexton saw him!!!
I would also emphasize the story of Rosa Parks, as another real person, I also heard about when I was little, and her bravery in how she spoke out, and took a stand to something that was wrong!
All my personal anecdotes helped convey their history in a very relatable way…Making it relevant and hoping they too would be proud of who the are ; striving forvalues and achievement…
All our children, whatever their ethnicity… race… religion… would be…
Mary Towers has been an inspiration to both; my professional and personal life…
Our story begins when I was hired by Mr. Bill Irby, principal of Alachua Elementary School, in Alachua, Florida; in the fall of nineteen seventy-three… I was hired for a paraprofessional position…
Before then, I had been a beginning teacher at Browning Pearce Elementary, in Palatka, Florida… traveling ninety miles daily… Alachua Elementary was fifteen miles from my home; so I accepted this position… I was assigned to tutor first grade students who needed extra support…Hoping that if a teaching position would become available…I would be hired…
Mary was one of the five teachers I was to assist in an open classroom; Learning Community A… LCA, as it was called; housed five classrooms, four of which were first grade and one was kindergarten; with over one hundred students separated only by partitions…I was to be placed with my small group, in the middle of this very large room divided by furniture and mobile chalkboards… Believe it or not, it it was not all that noisy…
On my very first day, I will never forget how I met Mary… I was walking through the unit, being introduced by the team leader, Chris Hirsch, to the teachers of the team in LCA… Mary being one of them, was very busy with a particular student…A little girl in her class was in the bathroom dealing with intestinal worms, and Mary was taking care of this most challenging situation…How impressed I was by how Mary was managing such a situation …
It was then, after a year, my wish came true…I did get reassigned to teach a first grade class!
And then, opening up the very next year in nineteen and seventy-five; one of the most special of my teaching opportunities opened up!
I was to team with Mary Towers, a professional relationship lasting nine years…. ending in 1984…when Mary retired…
This special opportunity arose in the summer of seventy-five, when Mr.Irby, offered me a co-teaching position with Mary, in a newly federally funded, early childhood education program called ECPC… The Early Childhood Preventative Curriculum Program...
This innovative program was designed as an intervention for diverse, young children who were screened in kindergarten, exhibiting difficulties with their learning…
This center based program was designed with no more than sixteen students, assisted by a full-time aide who would be responsible for the reinforcement associated with specific activities; that would build upon the deficits, diagnostically determined through pre and post tests through the child’s auditory, visual, kinesthetic, and tactile learning styles…
Mary and I each had our own group of children assisted by our full time aide.. Our class was housed within the large classroom in LCA…which now had mobilized walls separating each of the five classrooms; providing the children less distractions…
Our morning time was devoted to four specific centers that incorporated the curriculum:
Reading; Follow Up Reading, and Language Arts activities: Listening; and last “Willy Worm” an aide directed center with specific activities prescribed by the pre and post testing…
The reading curriculum utilized, the SullivanProgrammedReaders…a successful program of the time…. teaching children decoding skills in reading context within a linguistic progression of sound-symbol relationships...
Teaching those nine years with Mary really flew by!!…Sadly both our Team and ECPC Program ended with Mary’s retirement... Mary and I can look back and be quite proud of what our children accomplished from the Early Childhood Preventative Curriculum Program…
Many of our children went on to have successful lives; some going into local politics and a few playing collegiate and professional football…
Mary made this for me…when she retired…1984….
June 5, 1984…..Mary’s Retirement…
As I have reflect on our years together, this special relationship provided me the knowledge and experiences I learned from teaching with Mary…enabling me to evolve into a strong teacher…
Not only has Mary been such an influence on me professionally…Personally, Mary has been a guiding support even more so…
Having lost my mother when I was a senior in high school…I always felt a little lost…Mary was close in age to what my mother’s age would have been…And having such a warm connection with Mary…I always believed my mother, placed Mary in my life for a special reason…I have felt blessed to have Mary in my corner for these forty plus years…
Through the many years I have learned so much about Mary’s beautiful family; especially now that her husband’s recent passing,..Her four children never leave her side…
Mary will be one hundred this year, and she still lives in the same house that she and her husband built after World War II; on land that has been in her family for generations … There are always family gatherings with her children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, other family members and close friends …
What I dearly appreciate truly about Mary is about service and sacrifice, pertaining to her husband Frank Towers ….their story; how they met and married during World War II…Frank was a true hero of the War…He was a commissioned officer in the 30th Infantry Division during the Invasion at Normandy and helped in the liberation of the Jewish Holocaust survivors on a train from the Bergen-Belsen Concentration Camp….
Mary was still actively involved in my life even in her early nineties…The years passing we have kept our special lunches just to keep in touch…
Then when I began teaching at Idylwild in 20O7…She and her husband offered to assist me in my move to be closer to Idylwild…Utilizing their large van and Frank’s technological skills….with my computer…
Mary would even volunteer in my classroom…I so loved and appreciated her help…
She did so much: she would help any child that needed assistance with their math or reading; at home she would make all the children flash cards for reading practice; bring in much needed school supplies; make our individual math packets… Our children and Idywild loved her…And in 2011 Idywild nominated Mary for “Volunteer of the Year…
With my retirement in 2015…I have moved to Palm Coast, to be closer to the ocean…
I am still loving and appreciating Mary…
And… so looking forward to coming back to Gainesville; spring and fall…celebrating our friendship with our special lunch dates…
Graduating with a bachelor’s degree from the University of Florida, on March 18th, 1972, just three days after my twenty-third birthday… I was so ready to influence; moreover make a difference for our children… Being a mother of a two year old, I was so excited to make that impact!
I was so willing to travel ninety miles a day to teach at an elementary school in a diverse community…So, on April 1, 1972, I began this journey, to Browning Pearce Elementary in Palatka, Florida… At the time, we had just gone through integration, and that particular school had two campuses… One originally being the school for African American students, was now the school’s intermediate grades…And I was to finish the year in a fourth grade…
Boy, how unready I was… Yet so very excited…It was the last ten weeks of school, and I was assigned to take over a for a seasoned teacher, who was relocating to Tallahassee to be with her husband …
I might have cried most days feeling overwhelmed, however with the wonderful assistant principal, and a caring colleague…I made it through!! Learning so very much ; This challenging opportunity was just my beginning!!!
The next year I was then assigned to teach kindergarten …Not being certified, I was required to get early childhood classes from my alma mater, University of Florida, to be certified in early childhood … This wonderful placement was an opportunity for such growth… My love for young children, and an appreciation of diversity thrived…Many of whom had been migrants…
My next opportunity in my teaching career lead me a little closer to home, now I was only traveling about 30 miles a day to a newly integrated community elementary school… Alachua Elementary…Another diverse population of young children…first working as a paraprofessional, then teaching first graders….
This placement was for sixteen years, from seventy four to ninty; These were exciting times for public education and children coming from diversity… I felt my passion for teaching flourish …The federal government was providing programs and resources for our children… At Alachua…I have some of my fondest memories in my years of teaching…I had the wonderful opportunity of team teaching with Mary Towers, a seasoned teacher…We taught together for nine wonderful years…teaching high risk first graders…in one such federally funded program…“Early Childhood Preventative Curriculum”,ECPC…
I learned so much about the developmental ablities of young children with the challenges they may face… However, with a smaller class size, and the extra assistance of an aide… And curriculum developmentally appropriate….I was to learn later, that many of our children grew into successful adults…
Upon Mary’s retirement in 1984, which tremendously impacted my growth …
I had another strong influence on my career, team teaching with Wetona Johnson…We taught together for five years…teaching first grade in Chapter I; Another federally funded program giving young children extra reinforcement in reading and math skills…
I must also thank the the two principals I worked under at Alachua Elementary School, who guided this growth…
First of whom was Mr. Bill Irby…A man of tremendous integrity… When Mr. Irby retired…this wonderful community even built an elementary school in his honor… The second was another strong leader, Mrs. Pansy Post…who became principal of Alachua when Mr. Irby retired…Mrs. Post brought such a creative flair to Alachua…
I must again acknowledge and appreciate these opportunities that instilled such values making me the strong teacher I was to became; sixteen glorious years at Alachua Elementary …
I was now forty years old…a seasoned teacher ready for my next learning opportunity…And now I was closer to home, by less than five miles… Terwilliger Elementary…A neighborhood school enriched with diversity….A wonderful blend of students…This was nineteen eighty-nine, and public education was changing, not for the better… Here in Florida, we especially felt this impact with the “No Children Left Behind Act” thanks to our Governor, Jeb Bush… If it weren’t for the blend of wonderfully talented and professional teachers; and that mixture of diverse students, these years were filled with such blessings… I was able to teach upper level students: a year in fourth grade, and five years at fifth grade…Both were great… I also had the opportunity to teach second grade for five years…Even taking an educational sabbatical where I was able to attend the University of Florida in graduate level courses in counseling education…
However, due to health issues, I retired in 2002… after thirty years… I was so proud of my years of inspiring and influencing children…
I still had more to accomplish in my teaching career….More children needed my influence, especially in the times we were heading, in the twenty first century…
So, I was so blessed to be able to resume my teaching career in 2008…at Idywild Elementary, a diverse population of children where many of my students were from challenging homes situations….
I was back teaching first grade…. where, with the many years of experience, I was able to provide my children a strong, structured, safe and loving classroom…. Moreover, with a strong support staff providing our children the best education we were able…And, given these times of less funds…more testing and developmentally inappropriate curriculum…
Our children were successful!!!…
As for me…What a gift I was given…to be able to teach eight more years, thirty-eight in all …I then felt I was ready to retire from my teaching career …in 2015…
These last eight years at Idywild turned out to be my most rewarding…I truly felt I had made that difference I so hoped when I began this journey!!!
And now have the time advocating for our children, and their right to a strong public school education….
It is my belief that our schools have always relied on certain fundamental qualities affecting its climate; the children, the teachers, the staff…and the parents…
Thus affecting the outcome of our children’s ability to learn and become successful…
And now, more that ever…in these most difficult of times, even when our government is trying to dismantle this sacred of institutions…our public schools….These fundamentally necessary, must be supportive,working closely in conjunction with the teachers…providing a climate where children can succeed…
The one most critical factor… The support and involvement of Parents...
I have learned that having parents involved in my classroom has been valued deeply; though our communications and their support…Moreover, when an opportunity arose, having that extra pair of hands, in a variety of classroom activities such as: field trips,class parties, and special programs… My classroom had always been a welcoming place to my parents; inviting them to just come in and observe…
Back in the Seventies when I began … Parent involvement focused on specific parenting workshops designed to encourage parent participation…Parents who needed extra support learned to make and take materials to use at home with their child…These workshops really got many parents involved..At this time, we were so fortunate to receive appropriations from government to fund these programs…
During these later years, I have found it somewhat of a challenge to have parent involvement… with a population of our parents… Our school has had to become more creative in coming up with a variety of ways to maintain a strong parent involvement… that would include: dinners, fairs, special programs, and performances …successfully bringing many parents in; allowing us to provide essential communications, free books and learning materials for our parentsto take home…Hopefully encouraging them to use these books and materials at home with their child…
Another critical component to our parental involvement that has been successful, was making visits to the home, especially for those parents not able to come into school…These home visits would give me a better understanding of the home life of my children….In addition, if needed, we could rely on our school guidance counselor for assistance…However in the last fifteen to twenty years, the school counselor has been over loaded with extra demands, not enabling he or she time for counseling our children as much, and no time to assist on our home visits…
In the later years we had the opportunity to utilize an additional resource person, a school social worker to help with parent involvement.. Our school social worker was a bridge between home and school… a warm caring resource that helped our many parentsin need..especially those who lived in poverty…
…As a teacher working with diverse children who come from impoverished homes; where so many of our parents were not able to be as involved in part do to their unsettling circumstance…I was then able to appreciate the benefits that our social worker was able to accomplish, providing the necessary resources from our community to many of our parents in need..
However due to cuts in funding, we no longer have this wonderful resource available…
Through all the many years…my school, along with the many other schools; because of their love and concerns for children have done all they could to find a way to get parents involved…
And moreover, in the later years…Personally, spending much of my time communicating with my parents through daily communication in their child’s daily planner, making necessary phone calls, sending emails, and making home visits…My door was always open, welcoming them to come visit, or stop by to just have lunch with their child…Our classroom was a safe and loving place…where their child was going to be successful… “We were a team”…
I am eternally grateful to my parents for making the time♥️
This time of year, back in the day…My classroom was the place for fun that inhanced our learning….We had time to incorporate into the curriculum, learning through special art and creative poetry projects that were made for our parents, as holiday gifts…
We truly enjoyed taking two special field trips to magical places that our children got to experience first hand: visiting a pumpkin patch farm and the viewing of the Nutcracker Ballet…Some of our children would never have had those opportunities…What learning!
We spent a great deal of time learning and appreciating different cultures and how they celebrated the season…And finally, the children couldn’t wait for the culmination of the celebration of the season with our holiday cookie exchange…Then off for winter break!!!
It is my hope that our public school teachers continue these beautiful traditions for our children…As we know, there are those children who especially need to know the Beauty of the Season…
Being an eternal optimist… I must keep my positive outlook… Having had many challenges in my personal life… I as many are feeling in the aftermath of this election, may want to give up the fight…
My positive outlook on life dictates for me not to give up, but rise and a call to action….
We as a People can not… As “Hillary” would emphatically say…
We are Stronger Together… For all that is right in our Country… For our beautiful children who need positive roll models…
Teaching those many years, my children who came into my classroom from poverty and dysfunction in their homes, would listen, with full attention when I would share some of my personal stories coming from a poor single family household…and how I overcame the many challenges I incurred in my life, made me work extra hard, paying my way with loans and grants for my college education; I was always hoping to provide them with insight …and guidance… Our young children want and must need to know…from us…In order to succeed….
Now that this election is over, I am deeply heartsick, and realize how divided our Country is… We as teachers have definitely witnessed how these changes have impacted our children…Children, especially from poverty need those positive role models to guide and direct their future…This is crucial especially those that may not get much if any support from home…
Having listened to such negative and hateful rhetoric, watching our media giving so much attention to getting the story… missed so much… The divide of our people…how their anger affects children, nor really caring about the effect..
As I witnessed first hand in volunteering for Hillary’s campaign this concerns me what kind of message we are giving our children..
However, In my own personal experiences canvassing neighborhoods for this campaign. Flagler County, in a Republican Community in Florida, I did meet many people from different ethnicity, age groups, and genders… I realized…We were all ready working together to get Hillary elected as our President…… I must be positive and hopeful… Those of the many of us; as the popular vote affirms, believe as I do…
We need to keep up the fight for all the beauty our Country has to offer…We must continue speaking out for the “good”… We need to be positive role models for our children…
I feel we will succeed…for our children…This really is their future….!!!
This time of year, back in the day…My classroom was the place for fun that inhanced our learning….We had time to incorporate into the curriculum, learning through special art and creative poetry projects that were made for our parents, as holiday gifts…
